The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)

The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)

In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life. During her multibook investigation into understanding human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Projec...

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Title:The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
Author:Gretchen Rubin
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:0525496289
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Audio CD
Number of Pages:7 pages pages

The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too) Reviews

  • Jessica Howard
    Aug 05, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

  • David
    Jul 13, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

  • Katharine
    Jan 25, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

    I've been in contact with a lot of "personnality tests" lately, by happenstance - at work and such - and so when the library told me this book had come in for me, I wasn't sure. I didn't really trust it? I'm not Rubin's biggest fan, and it felt to me like putting people in categories b...

    This was my first audiobook and it was perfect. As someone who has trouble staying focused, listening to fiction has proven difficult. But the subject matter combined with Rubin's calming voice kept me engaged and interested. Plus, I found this book to be incredibly helpful -- I'm for ...

  • Kelly
    May 27, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

  • Ann
    Feb 02, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

  • Jerrie (redwritinghood)
    Feb 11, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

  • Meredith
    Sep 22, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

  • Jay
    Sep 28, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

  • Katie
    May 15, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

  • Robert
    Oct 09, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

  • Postilla
    Sep 25, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

  • Ness
    Aug 09, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

  • Ashley
    Jan 21, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

  • Mireille
    Jun 12, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

    I've been in contact with a lot of "personnality tests" lately, by happenstance - at work and such - and so when the library told me this book had come in for me, I wasn't sure. I didn't really trust it? I'm not Rubin's biggest fan, and it felt to me like putting people in categories b...

  • Beth Bonini
    Jan 26, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

  • Cheryl
    Oct 27, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

  • Kelli
    Feb 06, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

  • Megan
    Sep 21, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

  • Donna
    Oct 02, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

  • Meg
    Oct 10, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

  • Cristy Jimenez-Shawcroft
    Jun 14, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

  • Jo
    Oct 13, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

  • Stephanie Phillips
    Dec 10, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

  • Nile Stanley
    Dec 13, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

  • Colona Public Library
    Oct 31, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

    I've been in contact with a lot of "personnality tests" lately, by happenstance - at work and such - and so when the library told me this book had come in for me, I wasn't sure. I didn't really trust it? I'm not Rubin's biggest fan, and it felt to me like putting people in categories b...

    This was my first audiobook and it was perfect. As someone who has trouble staying focused, listening to fiction has proven difficult. But the subject matter combined with Rubin's calming voice kept me engaged and interested. Plus, I found this book to be incredibly helpful -- I'm for ...

    I really enjoyed this book, I thought it helped in explaining the motivations for people. I am an "upholder", I do well with inner and outer expectations. I have always been a good student, a good self-starter and I have struggled in understanding why people just don't do what they are...

    I really enjoyed this book, and feel everyone should at least take the quiz in the second chapter to see which type of personality type you fall into. There are basically 4 types. Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. Once you take the quiz, there are chapters for each group. I wou...

  • Emmy H. Nathasia
    Mar 24, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

  • NicolleCJ
    Jul 19, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

    I've been in contact with a lot of "personnality tests" lately, by happenstance - at work and such - and so when the library told me this book had come in for me, I wasn't sure. I didn't really trust it? I'm not Rubin's biggest fan, and it felt to me like putting people in categories b...

    This was my first audiobook and it was perfect. As someone who has trouble staying focused, listening to fiction has proven difficult. But the subject matter combined with Rubin's calming voice kept me engaged and interested. Plus, I found this book to be incredibly helpful -- I'm for ...

    I really enjoyed this book, I thought it helped in explaining the motivations for people. I am an "upholder", I do well with inner and outer expectations. I have always been a good student, a good self-starter and I have struggled in understanding why people just don't do what they are...

    I really enjoyed this book, and feel everyone should at least take the quiz in the second chapter to see which type of personality type you fall into. There are basically 4 types. Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. Once you take the quiz, there are chapters for each group. I wou...

    I was glad I got to see Gretchen Rubin speak when she came to San Diego. I?m an Obliger and my husband a Questioner (although I first thought Upholder). I mostly skimmed over the Upholder and Rebel sections and the other parts related to dealing with children, etc. It was interesting...

  • Nicole Burrell
    Sep 06, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

  • Hayley Stenger
    Jul 28, 2018

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...

    I am a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her podcast. I am sad to say that this book was really disappointing. Her "Four Tendencies" was a cute idea in her book Better Than Before and I was hoping she would do actual research and collect real evidence to validate her theory. Sadly, this book i...

    I have loved reading Gretchen Rubin's books each time, but when she published her habit book, I questioned everything. So I put reading this one off, since it came out of that book. And when I discovered I am a questioner, suddenly everything made sense. Like literally every persona...

    I feel exasperated by the book, but in a good way. So I did the quiz and I got Questioner. When I read Chapter 1, I kinda have a tendency in my head that best described me, and I am excited about reading about it further to understand my tendencies more. Instead, I got a Questioner. I ...

    I hesitated about how to categorise this book: the word ?self-help? has always made me cringe, and somehow the word ?psychology? seems too academic. Many people will describe it as yet another personality test-cum-self-knowledge-cum-positive change type of books, and it is that...

    This book does not present solid evidence and I would not recommend as an introduction to psychology of personalities. This is a personality-types book: Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, Rebel. The book is a little different than previous Rubin books- Better than Before, Happier at Home, ...

    Rubin herself says that she was clerking for a Supreme Court justice when she suddenly decided she wanted to be a writer. Not a researcher. A writer. And it shows she didn?t want to be a researcher. That would be fine, unless you decide to come up with four personality types into whi...

    Awful book with no scientific merit. A slap in the face to real researchers. Research 101...what evidence for the reliability and validity? ...

    Enjoyable, and informative. Not totally groundbreaking if you're familiar with Rubin's work, but I'd still recommend it. ...

    This book explores her concepts of the four tendencies even further than in Better than Before. Where Better than Before focused on how to use knowledge of your tendency to meet goals, this book focuses more on how to deal with a child, partner, boss or employee, or patient of each ten...

    I found this book and the Four Tendencies framework to be a very helpful tool to understanding people. Great insights that I?m sure I will continue to use. I also like how there are additional resources online. ...

    Rubin uses observation to try to classify people and comes up with a simple 2x2 matrix that is presented in ?The Four Tendencies?. The two criteria she uses are commitment to self and commitment to others, and she simply divides each of those into two measurements, leans that way o...

    I love Gretchen, but this one is my least favorite of her books. After reading the book, having my husband read the book, and humming and hawing, I can't peg my tendency or my husband's. Gretchen would say I am a questioner because of that, but that chapter did not resonate with me at ...

    I've been in contact with a lot of "personnality tests" lately, by happenstance - at work and such - and so when the library told me this book had come in for me, I wasn't sure. I didn't really trust it? I'm not Rubin's biggest fan, and it felt to me like putting people in categories b...

    This was my first audiobook and it was perfect. As someone who has trouble staying focused, listening to fiction has proven difficult. But the subject matter combined with Rubin's calming voice kept me engaged and interested. Plus, I found this book to be incredibly helpful -- I'm for ...

    I really enjoyed this book, I thought it helped in explaining the motivations for people. I am an "upholder", I do well with inner and outer expectations. I have always been a good student, a good self-starter and I have struggled in understanding why people just don't do what they are...

  • Kelly 💜☕️
    Sep 24, 2017

    Oh. Oh. My. Gosh. Too simple to be so true, and surely not perfect for everyone, but goodness, perfect for me. For the first time in five blinking decades I've realized that I am actually a 'rebel' and not an 'obliger.' I was such a good girl as a child, and I've never done anything tr...

    The author profile on the back states that Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential writers on human nature. Really? According to whom? I?d like to see that data (and also any data at all to support these four personality profiles that stemmed from a weird quiz about resolutions...

    I do tasks that will only take a minute immediately instead of saving them for later. I open boxes carefully so as not to damage them. I [try to] remove splinters with tape. I occasionally ask myself how future Nicole would feel about choices I am making now. And when I want to eat bet...

    I don't know where to start. I have read a few things claiming Gretchen is an expert, but as far as I can tell she has a law degree and is an author with no other qualifications and none are mentioned in the book. Why does that make her an expert? She has had dinner with some really im...

    I like this author. She has some great ideas for living happier. In this book, she deals with four different personality types: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. There was a test at the beginning to figure out which one you are. It wasn't that clear at the end of the te...

    I didn't find this to be as revelatory as it seems to be for so many. To use Rubin's own language this book is definitely written by an Upholder. Full of little boxes to sort everyone into, and you must fit into a box. That is Upholder logic, if I understand it correctly. Tidy litt...

    There are numerous personality tests available, that rate your personality in one or more dimensions. I like the Myers Briggs test, that gauge your personality in four dimensions (I am an INTP type). This book bring to light a totally different dimension; the dimension of expectations....

    A very simplistic view, rather poor content, no actual research or evidence is provided for this operation of dividing all mankind in 4 pretty boxes. Sloppy writing also, with parts rehashed from Better than before, the author's previous book. What would you think of somebody who categ...

    I have sorta mixed feelings about the author. I have read and liked her other happiness/habit books. She has some good insights and is definitely interesting to read. There's something fulfilling about following someone else's personal journey and choosing tidbits that can help your li...

    I snagged an ARC from my job at a public library. I knew a little bit about the four Tendencies before starting this book?mostly, that I am totally an Upholder?but not too much. I mostly enjoyed this book and the way it helps us both define others and give tips for living, working,...

    I really liked this. I read it for my "learning time" at work and have been recommending it to my coworkers. ("Learning time" is a thing at my work in general--it's a library, after all!--and our new department goal is for each of us to get 24 hours of it a quarter. It finally occurred...

    If you're not at all familiar with Gretchen Rubin's theory of the Four Tendencies, then this book is a great entry point to her framework for how people respond to inner and outer expectations. I am a big fan of Gretchen's and I've read her previous books on happiness and habits, plus ...

    LOVED this book!!! I'm a Gretchen Rubin super fan. I've read all her books & listen to her podcast. I was also lucky enough to meet her on the book tour for this book in September 2017. Thanks to the awesome independent bookstore Warwick's in La Jolla. Gretchen briefly intr...