The Dead Moms Club: A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses

The Dead Moms Club: A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses

Kate Spencer lost her mom to cancer when she was 27. In The Dead Moms Club, she walks readers through her experience of stumbling through grief and loss, and helps them to get through it, too. This isn't a weepy, sentimental story, but rather a frank, up-front look at what it means to go through gruesome grief and come out on the other side. An empathetic read, The Dead Mom Kate Spencer lost her mom to cancer when she was 27. In The Dead Moms Club, she walks readers through her experience ...

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Title:The Dead Moms Club: A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses
Author:Kate Spencer
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:1580056873
Format Type:Paperback
Number of Pages:288 pages pages

The Dead Moms Club: A Memoir about Death, Grief, and Surviving the Mother of All Losses Reviews

  • Susannah
    Nov 27, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

  • M
    Sep 25, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

  • Holly
    Jan 24, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

  • Callen
    May 30, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

  • Tonya
    Apr 21, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

  • Sue
    Dec 17, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

  • Melissa
    Jun 29, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

    "What does it mean, to move on? I know that i will never be "over" her death... the strangest moment can launch me into my sadness pool.. But most of the time, I feel beyond my grief, removed from it. I'm almost ahead of it now, beating it in its never-ending game of tag. Sometimes I p...

    I wanted to love this book. I lost my mom around the same age as the author and I eagerly ordered it and read it immediately. Unfortunately I did not personally connect with the author?s style. I felt much of the book that she was trying too hard to keep it light and insert jokes bec...

    This is one of the few library books I've borrowed that I will actually buy to keep. My mother passed away only 2 months ago, but this seems to have friendly suggestions that may prove helpful in the future. Lots of tears are shed in the reading of this book, yet she hits on so many ...

    I recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone close to them, or anyone who loves someone going through this kind of loss. I discovered the author through an article she wrote and enjoyed it so much I went looking for more. Kate Spencer offers great insight into the grieving proc...

    Kate?s mom died of cancer when Kate was 27. My mom died of cancer when I was 24. To say that I would love to talk to Kate is an enormous understatement! I know I?ll be re-reading this book because it was hard to stay focused when I read it the first time because I was so happy and ...

  • Taryn
    Jun 16, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

  • Leanne
    Aug 02, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

  • Riva Sciuto
    Jan 28, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

  • Katie
    Jan 19, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

  • Alisha
    May 29, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

  • Liz Gray
    Nov 24, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

  • Chrissy
    Jan 25, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

  • Meryl
    Jan 18, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

  • Lisa
    Dec 09, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

  • Ari Scott
    Dec 11, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

  • Tamie
    Jan 11, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

  • Amy
    Oct 03, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

  • Melissa
    Nov 20, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

  • Holly Schopfer
    Mar 05, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

  • Kimberly Burkett
    Dec 17, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

    "What does it mean, to move on? I know that i will never be "over" her death... the strangest moment can launch me into my sadness pool.. But most of the time, I feel beyond my grief, removed from it. I'm almost ahead of it now, beating it in its never-ending game of tag. Sometimes I p...

    I wanted to love this book. I lost my mom around the same age as the author and I eagerly ordered it and read it immediately. Unfortunately I did not personally connect with the author?s style. I felt much of the book that she was trying too hard to keep it light and insert jokes bec...

    This is one of the few library books I've borrowed that I will actually buy to keep. My mother passed away only 2 months ago, but this seems to have friendly suggestions that may prove helpful in the future. Lots of tears are shed in the reading of this book, yet she hits on so many ...

    I recommend this book to anyone who has lost someone close to them, or anyone who loves someone going through this kind of loss. I discovered the author through an article she wrote and enjoyed it so much I went looking for more. Kate Spencer offers great insight into the grieving proc...

  • Jackie Bean
    Feb 03, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

  • Laura
    May 28, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

  • Andrea
    Sep 01, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

  • Andrea
    Sep 23, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

  • Lynn Surprenant
    Feb 27, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

    "What does it mean, to move on? I know that i will never be "over" her death... the strangest moment can launch me into my sadness pool.. But most of the time, I feel beyond my grief, removed from it. I'm almost ahead of it now, beating it in its never-ending game of tag. Sometimes I p...

    I wanted to love this book. I lost my mom around the same age as the author and I eagerly ordered it and read it immediately. Unfortunately I did not personally connect with the author?s style. I felt much of the book that she was trying too hard to keep it light and insert jokes bec...

    This is one of the few library books I've borrowed that I will actually buy to keep. My mother passed away only 2 months ago, but this seems to have friendly suggestions that may prove helpful in the future. Lots of tears are shed in the reading of this book, yet she hits on so many ...

  • Clayton Turner
    Aug 23, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

    "What does it mean, to move on? I know that i will never be "over" her death... the strangest moment can launch me into my sadness pool.. But most of the time, I feel beyond my grief, removed from it. I'm almost ahead of it now, beating it in its never-ending game of tag. Sometimes I p...

  • Hayley
    Apr 16, 2018

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

  • Meghan Pluimer
    Dec 10, 2017

    "You have one long, messy, weird, beautiful life. People come in and out of it, live and die, and affect us in enormous and not-so-enormous ways. Your mom's death is now a piece of you, a new dent on the side of the strange, misshapen thing that is your life." *** As a member of th...

    Unfortunately, I am a new member in this club and I ordered Kate's book to try to find some ideas about dealing with my grief. Because the situations were very different, parts of the book didn't resonate with me but there were other parts that were very meaningful. The author has d...

    I?m (thankfully) not a member of the Dead Moms Club, but this book reduced me to a puddle of tears. Kate lays out the good, bad, and ugly parts of herself and her grief in a very real, relatable way. I found her tips on how to support those who are grieving or dealing with illness to...

    I've always thought it so interesting and peculiar that eventually every human will experience loss and grief, yet it is such a unique and personal experience. And again, people read nonfiction and memoirs about how to deal with loss, yet one person's coping mechanisms may be the exact...

    A warning to potential readers: don?t start this book unless you have time to finish it in one or two sittings. It?s that good. Spencer writes in an engaging, self-deprecating and chatty style about a topic that most of us will experience in our lives, and her observations are hear...

    To be totally honest, I know Kate IRL (brag) and read an early draft of this book (double brag) so you can take this review with NO grains of salt because, girl, I can be objective. This is a really funny, moving, vulnerable memoir about the biggest, worst loss in Kate?s life, and al...

    This book wasn't what I expected. I wanted it to go deep, but instead it read like an extremely privileged girl's life experiences with passages like: 'You know those asshole kids who have Christmas presents stacked so high they touch the top of the tree? That's us' or 'I grew up spend...

    Let's start off with why I'm here: I'm a part of this club. I never would've thought to order this book online if I wasn't. And I'm glad I did. My rating for this book is based on how much it helped me ? and it helped me, hence the full rating. I would read this book again. I was sad...

    First of all, this is the worst club ever and I would like to leave. That said, I did appreciate this book, especially after having a few years to adjust to my membership. My instinct when reading was to compare everything about the author's situation to mine. We were about the sam...

    I adored this book. I found Kate's voice so engaging; the perfect combination of wry/funny and sad/honest. Though I lost my father, not my mother, I related to so much of Kate's experience. Even if you haven't lost someone, this book is still a great read thanks to Kate's humor and hon...

    Not to freak you out or anything, but I am fascinated with death. Especially the fact that we don't talk about Death much, considering the fact that it is everybody's future. My dad died when I was one, and he was 26, and I never stop wishing that he would have left me a letter, so...

    I chose this book from the library to help supplement my research into others? books of grief, as I am writing my own grief memoir about recurrent pregnancy loss. I adored the author?s total transparency, wit, and unabashed accounting of her ongoing grief experience. This made her ...

    Overall I like this book a lot and would recommend it or buy it for friends who experience loss. It is particularly resonant to me because her mother is diagnosed with cancer and given a very grim prognosis, and dies within a year after a fast yet also glacial decline. There were certa...

    I?ve become a big Kate Spencer fan through her podcast and her memoir had the same humor and honesty I hear weekly. I liked how she explored her relationships with those who were also going through grief. The chapters about her dad, ex-boyfriend and stepmom were especially well done....

    This is the best book about dead moms out there. Since there aren?t a ton of those, it probably sounds like I?m damning with faint praise, but it?s so funny and poignant and ON POINT. It?s also a solid choice for anyone who isn?t in the club because Spencer provides a lot of ...

    I don't usually read memoirs touching grief but I knew I had to get this book after my own mother passed away two months ago. Kate Spencer wrote this touching and funny tribute to her mom and how she dealt with grief and the aftermath, things that I'm still navigating today. It's a bit...

    This book was charming, heartbreaking, hilarious, and uplifting all at the same time. Can?t wait to read more from Kate Spencer. ...

    ? Hi! English isn't my mother language and I'm self-taught, so, sorry for any mispelled words and everything in between. I don't recomend this reading if you recently had lost your mother. You'll hate the author. Just don't read it now, wait at least a few months. Then you will un...

    Kate Spencer has written a moving, colorful, sad, uplifting, helpful, and funny memoir that, both fortunately and unfortunately, came along at the precise time in my life that I needed it. ...

    I wrote an entire review and then goodreads deleted it and I do not have the energy to repeat. Suffice it to say, this book is not perfect (some of the jokes are really forced and I don't think the author and I would be friends), but this book is also a lot like she saw into my heart a...

    I?ve read so many books on grief and each one has missed the mark. I have always said that 20-something?s who lose their moms are the forgotten ones. When you lose your mom as a child or teenager, it?s tragic for different reasons and the whole world gives you love, shows you emp...

    The title of this book probably would have been too raw for me immediately after I lost my mom, but six months later this was the tonic I needed. I was lucky enough to have my mom around until well into middle age, but it was still not nearly long enough. I mostly appreciated the bl...

    I've been a member of the Dead Moms Club for two years, and I've read many grief books. This is a welcome addition to the motherless memoir genre. Her humor is refreshing. So many of her insights and experiences resonated, especially how grief informed her motherhood and how becoming a...

    I found this book after being a big fan of Kate's podcast, "Forever 35" and was so touched by her story of her Mom's cancer, and the hard road to navigating grief when a loved one dies. The book has excellent advice for being a friend to someone who is dealing with grief, and points ou...

    I?ll never really ?finish? reading this book and I think I?ll probably be reading it for the rest of my life. I lost my mum almost a year ago now and as this is fairly uncommon for a twenty year old I?ve really struggled with feeling like no one can help because no one unders...

    "What does it mean, to move on? I know that i will never be "over" her death... the strangest moment can launch me into my sadness pool.. But most of the time, I feel beyond my grief, removed from it. I'm almost ahead of it now, beating it in its never-ending game of tag. Sometimes I p...

    I wanted to love this book. I lost my mom around the same age as the author and I eagerly ordered it and read it immediately. Unfortunately I did not personally connect with the author?s style. I felt much of the book that she was trying too hard to keep it light and insert jokes bec...