Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture

Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture

Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on. In this valuable and revealing anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Femini...

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Title:Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture
Author:Roxane Gay
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Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture Reviews

  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    Oct 19, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

  • elissa
    Nov 07, 2017

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

  • Ashley
    Jun 14, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

  • Chris
    Jun 02, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

  • Thomas
    Jul 16, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

  • Rose
    May 30, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

  • Raeleen Lemay
    Jan 09, 2019

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

  • Emily May
    Jun 14, 2017

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

  • Vanessa
    Dec 02, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

  • Monica
    Jul 11, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

  • Claire
    Dec 29, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

  • Malia
    Jul 12, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

  • Katie
    Aug 18, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    This just sent me in a fucking whirlwind. Read this book. I can?t provide a review of this book that gives it justice. Roxanne Gay is a fierce fucking force of nature who I now adore. ...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    ?Because when others serially talk down to you, assume authority over you, try to talk you out of your own feelings and tell you who you are; when you?re not taken seriously or listened to in countless daily interactions?then you may learn to accept it, to expect it, to agree wit...

  • Sabrina
    Oct 06, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

  • Karena
    Mar 12, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

  • BookOfCinz
    Aug 03, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

  • Rachel León
    May 25, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

  • Latanya (CraftyScribbles)
    Jun 22, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    This just sent me in a fucking whirlwind. Read this book. I can?t provide a review of this book that gives it justice. Roxanne Gay is a fierce fucking force of nature who I now adore. ...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

  • Scott S.
    May 24, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

  • Katie.dorny
    Sep 10, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    This just sent me in a fucking whirlwind. Read this book. I can?t provide a review of this book that gives it justice. Roxanne Gay is a fierce fucking force of nature who I now adore. ...

  • Hannah
    May 09, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

  • Kai
    Jan 30, 2019

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

  • Dannii Elle
    Aug 23, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

  • Hanna
    Mar 21, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

  • da AL
    Sep 27, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

  • Schizanthus
    Jun 21, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

  • Nadia
    Sep 15, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

  • Emily (Books with Emily Fox)
    May 20, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

  • Leona  Carstairs
    Nov 02, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    This just sent me in a fucking whirlwind. Read this book. I can?t provide a review of this book that gives it justice. Roxanne Gay is a fierce fucking force of nature who I now adore. ...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    ?Because when others serially talk down to you, assume authority over you, try to talk you out of your own feelings and tell you who you are; when you?re not taken seriously or listened to in countless daily interactions?then you may learn to accept it, to expect it, to agree wit...

    Powerful in all its rage. ...

  • Maggie Wrobel
    Mar 13, 2018

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    ?Don?t ever use an insult for a woman that you wouldn?t use for a man. Say ?jerk? or ?shithead? or ?asshole.? Don?t say ?bitch? or ?whore? or ?slut.? If you say ?asshole,? you?re criticizing her parking skills. If you say ?bitch,? you?re crit...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Excellent anthology about rape culture and the patriarchal world we live in that perpetuates it. Roxane Gay serves as editor of this powerful collection in which several writers share their stories of date rape, inappropriate touching, child molestation, and other instances of violence...

    A tough read, but important and necessary. ...

    Anyone who doesn't understand the lifelong impact of sexual abuse, rape, and trauma (and how very different it is from regret over a bad date) should read this book. An alternate title could have been been "Get Over It."? ? This also will probably be valuable to people who haven'...

    Everyone needs to read this. Everyone. So many brave stories. The audio version is phenomenal. Throughout, I'm reminded of Frida Kahlo's painting, "A Few Small Nips," which quotes the words of a man after he murdered his girlfriend. ...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    I went on a bit of a journey through Opposite Land while reading this book. I love that this book exists. I hate that it has to. The title was what initially grabbed my attention: Not That Bad. How many times have I and countless others said that?! Was it because it wasn?t that b...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. Roxane Gay compiles a cornucopia of essays about all aspects of rape and rape culture. Rape culture is defined as a society or environment whose prevailing social attit...

    I don't even know where to start reviewing this, Not That Bad evoked so much reaction in me and I feel very privileged to have the opportunity to read it. If I only had one word to describe this book, I would choose POWERFUL. I took my time reading this book, not because I didn't l...

    This I think is a very important read, but also definitely not one for the faint of heart. If I could change anything about my reading experience, I would have read this over a longer period of time and not essay after essay after essay in one sitting - unfortunately I had to do this a...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    "Perhaps the most horrifying thing about nonconsensual sex is that, in an instant, it erases you. Your own desires, your safety and well-being, your ownership of the body that may very well have been the only thing you ever felt sure you owned?all of it becomes irrelevant, even none...

    A challenging, confronting, critically important collection. Required reading. ...

    Wherever you come from and whoever you may be, if you are reading this then go and read the book instead. This is a raw collation of individual's responses to and experiences with rape culture. Many diverse perspectives are amalgamated here and it provides an entirely heart-breaking...

    Everyone should read this book. So powerful, so relevant, so necessary. An intersectional take on what it means to live in American rape culture. ...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...