Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture

Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture

Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Feminist and Hunger, this anthology of first-person essays tackles rape, assault, and harassment head-on. In this valuable and revealing anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what Edited and with an introduction by Roxane Gay, the New York Times bestselling and deeply beloved author of Bad Femini...

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Title:Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture
Author:Roxane Gay
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Number of Pages:368 pages pages

Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture Reviews

  • elissa
    Nov 07, 2017

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

  • Ashley
    Jun 14, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

  • xTx xTx
    Apr 29, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

  • Chris
    Jun 02, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

  • Elizabeth
    May 31, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

  • Jen
    May 02, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

    That was a really hard read and I had to read a chapter or two at a time, between other things, because it was too much to take in all at once. ...

    I had a stomachache for most of this and found myself shaking with anger. I?m adding it to my favorites list because I?m deeply proud and grateful for these brave writers and humans, but I?m also angry to my bones this book needs to exist. ...

    "Sometimes people tell me that something bad happened to me, but I am brave and strong. I don't want to be told that I am brave or strong. I am not right just because he was wrong. I don't want to be made noble. I want someone willing to watch me thrash and crumple because that, too, ...

  • Rebecca
    Apr 21, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

  • Rose
    May 30, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

  • Savanna
    Jun 12, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

    That was a really hard read and I had to read a chapter or two at a time, between other things, because it was too much to take in all at once. ...

    I had a stomachache for most of this and found myself shaking with anger. I?m adding it to my favorites list because I?m deeply proud and grateful for these brave writers and humans, but I?m also angry to my bones this book needs to exist. ...

    "Sometimes people tell me that something bad happened to me, but I am brave and strong. I don't want to be told that I am brave or strong. I am not right just because he was wrong. I don't want to be made noble. I want someone willing to watch me thrash and crumple because that, too, ...

    I can?t comfortably give a rating to a collection of personal essays about experiences with sexual harassment/assault/rape. However, I do think this is a book that needs to be read- in solidarity by those who have had similar experiences and for information by those who might not be ...

    My goodness. Hard to read, but so important to read. ...

  • Chinook
    May 20, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

    That was a really hard read and I had to read a chapter or two at a time, between other things, because it was too much to take in all at once. ...

  • Emily May
    Jun 14, 2017

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

  • Monica
    Jul 11, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

  • Veronica
    Mar 11, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

  • Malia
    Jul 12, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

  • Neville Longbottom
    Jul 08, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

  • Regan
    Jul 02, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

    That was a really hard read and I had to read a chapter or two at a time, between other things, because it was too much to take in all at once. ...

    I had a stomachache for most of this and found myself shaking with anger. I?m adding it to my favorites list because I?m deeply proud and grateful for these brave writers and humans, but I?m also angry to my bones this book needs to exist. ...

  • Karena
    Mar 12, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

  • Katie Jo
    May 29, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

    That was a really hard read and I had to read a chapter or two at a time, between other things, because it was too much to take in all at once. ...

    I had a stomachache for most of this and found myself shaking with anger. I?m adding it to my favorites list because I?m deeply proud and grateful for these brave writers and humans, but I?m also angry to my bones this book needs to exist. ...

    "Sometimes people tell me that something bad happened to me, but I am brave and strong. I don't want to be told that I am brave or strong. I am not right just because he was wrong. I don't want to be made noble. I want someone willing to watch me thrash and crumple because that, too, ...

    I can?t comfortably give a rating to a collection of personal essays about experiences with sexual harassment/assault/rape. However, I do think this is a book that needs to be read- in solidarity by those who have had similar experiences and for information by those who might not be ...

  • Megan Elizabeth
    Jul 09, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

    This is an astoundingly important book! Honest and powerful, I highly recommend this anthology. ...

  • Susan Bazzett-Griffith
    May 21, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

  • Rachel León
    May 25, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

  • Ylenia
    Jul 07, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

    This anthology is raw and heartbreaking and important. For survivors, it is not an easy read. I had to read it in stages, and when I was feeling up to it, but there is power, not just pain, in reading these essays, too- because the undercurrent of righteous anger, of ferocity, of deter...

    Thank you to the publisher (via Edelweiss) for an advance e-galley of this book in exchange for an honest review. How could I give this any fewer than full stars, when the writers in this anthology have laid bare their experiences in such honest, vivid essays? This is not easy, enjoya...

    Pre-order this book asap. ...

    "Together, let?s visualize what we need to change the rape culture. I have my keys in my hand and I am holding them like a claw. Let?s turn this motherfucking system around." Powerful. That?s the best word I can think of to describe this collection of essays. It hurts to read ...

    4.5 A very hard-to-read-but-important and at times infuriating collection of essays written by rape survivors of all age and sexual identity. I will read anything that has Roxane's name on it, but it was an heartbreaking experience. It's the type of book you can't read all in one ...

  • Latanya (CraftyScribbles)
    Jun 22, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

  • Scott
    May 24, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

  • Xavier (CharlesXplosion)
    May 29, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

  • Hannah
    May 09, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

  • Marlena
    Jun 10, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...

    One of my former massage school students (who was also a great intern in my classroom when I was a TA) has a powerful essay in this anthology. Very cool! https://miriamzperez.com/writing/ I've read theirs and a few others so far (including Ally Sheedy's). This will take some time to...

    Impressions, perceptions, ideas, emotions, concepts on rape and rape culture. Far more complex than is evident. rtf... 4.5ish Stars Read on my kindle. ...

    It's hard for me to find words surrounding the collection of essays in this book from many different and equally important voices. This book - a collection of essays compiled by Roxane Gay - chronicles real life stories surrounding rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and ultimately how...

    Rape and rape culture's not that bad. Right? Yes. It is that bad. In Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape Culture, these aspects and their presences in our culture get splayed and dissected by various women and men in this book. For example, Roxane Gay, Gabrielle Union, Ally She...

    I have never had such a hard time getting through a book that I liked. "Liked" actually feels like the wrong word here. How can I say I liked something that made me angry and frustrated almost 100% of the way through, and which filled me with dread every time I tried to convince myself...

    Roxane Gay has put something together here that is almost indescribable. The very essence of rape culture has permeated our society so subtly that most don?t know of it other than in the most physical sense of the word. But in this collection of essays, writers of all backgrounds tel...

    Look, don't let my rating fool you. This is an important book; it should be required reading. I love the inclusion of both LGTB and male voices, and important. I just, and this isn't going to sound nice but, I just wish there had more culture, if that makes sense. While the bulk o...

    not an easy read because it is hard to read example after example of rape & assault. the writing is outstanding while the experiences are troubling & sickening. ...

    Not That Bad suffers from a common problem amongst all anthologies - consistency and resonance. For some these may not be an issue, but for others, it may pose a significant hinderance to one's reading experience. ...

    wow. gay has put together a mass of voices and in their bulk, the truth of their words, the words of their truth, cannot be ignored. in fact, they are overwhelming. All nuance all same all speak as one. Sad all together. sad in small doses. a mirror. a scream. a throat ripped open with...

    Just looking at the title you can tell this is going to be a hard book to read. Although I found it even harder to put down. The way the authors were able to verbalize their pain in a way that brought you into the moment was in a dark and twisted way beautiful. Rape has been in the ...

  • Hanna
    Mar 21, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

  • Emily (Books with Emily Fox)
    May 20, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

  • Maggie Wrobel
    Mar 13, 2018

    Powerful. Raw. Stunning writing. Pretty much everything I would expect from a collection put together by Roxane Gay. What is it like to live in a culture where it often seems like it is a question of when, not if, a woman will encounter some kind of sexual violence? This is book ab...

    We tell ourselves it?s not that bad. We?re told we?re angry women. It is that bad. I am angry. We should be. ...

    Sometimes, when a book speaks deeply to me, I have problems putting into words what my thoughts are. This is one of those cases. Roxane Gay has built an anthology so strong, both in subject matter and in style, that I am feeling inadequate talking about it. I will try though, so bear w...

    This has been, by far, the toughest book I've ever read. A numerical rating doesn't even seem to make sense with this essay collection. How do you rate people's trauma? Raw. Unflinching. Haunting. An essay collection that will be sitting with me for a long time. ...

    Author/editor Roxane Gay has assembled nearly thirty essays from people who experienced rape, sexual abuse and/or child molestation. From understandable outrage ('Good Girls' by Amy Jo Burns and "All the Angry Women' by Lyz Lenz) to young innocence destroyed ('I Said Yes' by Anthony Fr...

    As is always the case with anthologies, some stories are more engaging than others. I also listened to this as and audiobook and I have to say, some narrators were very good and some so bad I almost couldn't listen to them.All in all, this was an interesting collection, if not exactly ...

    This book should be required reading. ...

    Unforgettable, tragic, essential and true. This book is a monumental achievement - a light in the current, ever-present murky darkness. It?s not easy to read, nor should it be, but it offers within it a type of solace through catharsis. Thank you to Roxane and the incredibly brave...