Secrets We Kept: Three Women of Trinidad

Secrets We Kept: Three Women of Trinidad

There, in a lush landscape of fire-petaled immortelle trees and vast plantations of coffee and cocoa, where the three hills along the southern coast act as guardians against hurricanes, Krystal A. Sital grew up idolizing her grandfather, a wealthy Hindu landowner. Years later, to escape crime and economic stagnation on the island, the family resettled in New Jersey, where There, in a lush landscape of fire-petaled immortelle trees and vast plantations of coffee and cocoa, where the three hill...

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Title:Secrets We Kept: Three Women of Trinidad
Author:Krystal A. Sital
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Genres:Autobiography
ISBN:039360926X
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:352 pages pages

Secrets We Kept: Three Women of Trinidad Reviews

  • Margo Littell
    Mar 22, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

  • Lindsay
    Jan 14, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

  • Bookworm
    Apr 18, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

  • Booktart
    Mar 07, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

  • Reshma
    Apr 21, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

  • Elisabeth
    Mar 11, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

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  • Elaine
    Mar 24, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

  • Doris Combs
    Mar 14, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

  • Cynthia
    Feb 17, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

  • enyanyo
    Dec 13, 2017

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

  • Kelly Kittel
    Apr 03, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

  • Donna Shaw
    Apr 17, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

  • Karen A. Lloyd
    Feb 25, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

  • Krystal
    Dec 10, 2017

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

  • Rosie
    Nov 17, 2017

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

  • Salima
    Mar 25, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

  • Joy
    Jan 28, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

  • Claudia Cunningham
    Apr 06, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

    ...

    ...

  • Mary Turner
    Apr 05, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

  • Shirley Cagle
    Mar 20, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

  • Angel Eduardo
    Feb 02, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

  • Melek
    Dec 15, 2017

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

    ...

    ...

    ...

    ...

  • Scott Cox
    Mar 24, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

  • Hannah
    Aug 18, 2017

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

    ...

  • Rebel Women Lit
    Feb 21, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

  • Dee Bodnar
    Apr 22, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

    I'm surprised at the high ratings this got. Forgot what it was that drew me to the book but as I'm not familiar with Trinidad I wanted to expand by horizons a bit and read this memoir. Author Sital writes of how she adored her grandfather but when he suffers a major injury and lapses i...

    The Secrets We Kept is Krystal Sital's memoir tracing the lives of her grandmother, mother, and self, all born in Trinidad. The first half of the book reads like lush fiction, beginning with her grandfather's declining health then jumping back to her mother and grandmother's early year...

    A wrenching story of secrets, loyalty, cultural expectations, and love--and how all of these come to bind three generations of women in Sital's family. Sital writes beautifully of Trinidad, her birthplace, and shows remarkable compassion and restraint even as she probes the most violen...

    The memoir is Krystal's grandmother and mother's story of their marriages as wives of Hindu men. Their husbands lived contradictory lives and domestic abuse was prevalent in this culture. These women found the strength to survive and, eventually, tell their story to Krystal as a warnin...

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  • Ashley
    Jan 22, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

  • Odessa Mc
    Mar 17, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...

    An eye-opening look into religion, family and community dynamics on the island of Trinidad through the eyes of three generations of women from one family. The physical abuse suffered by these mothers and daughters is pretty shocking. ...

    A glimpse into the lives of three generations of women in Trinidad. As someone born in Trinidad but raised in the US, I found myself longing to go back and see the places described in the book. I loved reading in the Trini accent and I also found myself craving Trini/Indian food. The...

    Couldn't put this book down Amazing read if you want a reminder of early childhood in Trinidad and a little of Tobago (Beautiful beaches, great food, friendly people etc). ...

  • Elizabeth Conley
    Mar 08, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

  • J Lawrence-Clarke
    Mar 21, 2018

    It?s fitting that I have finished this book on International Women?s Day. The harrowing stories of these women coming up in the male dominated Trinidadian culture, unfolding through the strength of each to ask about and share their secrets kept me coming back at every free opportun...

    Trigger Warning: Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence Secrets We Kept by Krystal Sital is a stunning memoir???unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital?s writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full an...

    Goodreads Giveaway winner. The author revered her grandfather and could not understand her grandmother's reaction when her grandfather becomes comatose after a fall. Then she is told the secrets that should never have been kept of the years of physical abuse inflicted on her grandmothe...

    This poignant memoir captivated me, and it was meaningful to read experiences that mirror my own, from the reverence of Pappy in childhood to leaving Trinidad but still calling it home! ...

    Secrets We Kept is a stunning memoir - unbelievable in parts, touching throughout, and thoroughly impactful. Sital's writing feels honest and she refreshingly portrays people as the full and complicated humans they are. The women are strong, but accepting of and sometimes complicit ...

    What a beautiful and heartbreaking account. I am still reeling from the extent of violence this family endured. Sital does an incredible job of weaving together the storylines, bouncing between past and (relative) present, and keeping the reader engaged...not because Shiva's violence i...

    A very tough read due to the domestic abuse detailed in the book, but also a very compelling memoir (written more like narrative fiction) set in a country I really didn?t know much about. I feel like the book gave me a sense of Trinidad and its complexities. ...

    I received an ARC of this title in exchange for an honest review. Sital shares an immigrant?s legacy, not an immigrant?s story. The strength of the Trinidadian women in the face of generations of culturally embedded abuse is both foreign and remarkable to an American reader. The n...

    There were so many aspects of this book that made me want to break down and cry or just be totally angry at what was going on. You learn about the cruelty inflicted by a man?s anger and hatred towards his family for no reason. You wonder as to why a woman would stay with a man that s...

    This was a captivating read. First, the idyllic descriptions of the island of Trinidad and then the author's gradual unfolding of her mother's, grandmother's and finally her own story. Krystal A. Sital's memoir highlights the power of owning and telling one's story. You could sense all...

    If I wasn't at work, I would have cried. Instead, when I heard voices outside the staff kitchen I had to look out the window to prevent myself from shedding any tears! It was an amazing read. My friend's parents are from Trinidad. As I read the dialect, I was reminded of them and as...

    Am emotional story of abuse as the brutal truth is unraveled. The voice of the abuser and the children are finally told; and how children view it differently and refuse to help the victim in the end as the abuser is dying. A heart-wrenching read. ...

    I didn't know much about the culture of Trinidad at the onset of this book, but not only did the author beautifully illustrate the culture she also amazingly weaved the stories of her mother and grandmother and how that culture impacted their lives, their families and their decisions. ...

    I'm truly stunned. A vivid, gripping, and heart-wrenching memoir, powerful in its themes, deft in its language and structure, and decimating in its honesty and intensity. Equal parts enrapturing and gut-punching, Krystal A. Sital weaves a multi-generational story of pain and perseveran...

    I was completely captivated by this book and would rate it 4.5 stars if that was available. Having lived in Jamaica, I really enjoyed the author's extensive use of patois! In addition, it made me so hungry for Indian food, that I ate at an Indian restaurant two nights in a row after I ...

    This was a difficult book to read because of the horrific treatment the women, mothers, daughters by their husbands/partners. Women who left homes where they were mistreated and abused, worked as though their lives depended on it... and they did! Trinidad was (is?) a patriarchal societ...

    Well written. Keep in on the edge of my seat. I just didnt want to read about the abuse. ...

    Krystal, your book was a vivid read, but also a vexing read. It filled me with a range of emotions - familiarity, because of knowing the topography; wonder, at speaking in the Indian accent; understanding and deep compassion for the life of a country farm child; deep sadness at the cru...