Amateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man

Amateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man

From an award-winning writer whose work bristles with ?hard-won strength, insight, agility, and love? (Maggie Nelson), an exquisite and troubling narrative of masculinity, violence, and society. In this groundbreaking new book, the author, a trans man, trains to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden while struggling to untangle the vexed relationship between mas From an award-winning writer whose work bristles with ?hard-won strength, insight, agility, and love? (Maggie...

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Title:Amateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man
Author:Thomas Page McBee
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:1501168746
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:224 pages pages

Amateur: A True Story About What Makes a Man Reviews

  • John Devlin
    Dec 09, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

  • Teresa
    Dec 06, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

  • Kate
    Oct 02, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

  • James
    Sep 15, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

  • Dominic
    Sep 15, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

  • Scarlett
    Oct 20, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

  • Eli
    Oct 24, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

  • Joan
    Dec 15, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

  • Caden
    Sep 26, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

  • Rose
    Sep 27, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

  • Eleanor
    Aug 17, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

  • Rebecca
    Aug 01, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

  • Libby
    Sep 27, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

  • Rebecca
    Jul 17, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

  • Austen
    Dec 13, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

  • Katie
    Nov 29, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

  • Raf
    Oct 08, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

  • Julie Giehl
    Aug 19, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

  • Zach Harper
    Oct 28, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

  • Randy Bretzin
    Sep 09, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

    I liked a lot of this and found the story fascinating.... but I still don't know why he felt the need to fight. It didn't de-mystify boxing for me. I saw boxing as a band-aid to put on the issue of toxic masculinity, not the cure.... ...

    Superbly well written and insightful, a pleasure to read. Thomas explores the subject of masculinity with great openness and vulnerability. As a woman I found it very interesting to read, and it certainly made me see things more from the male point of view. ...

    ~3.5-3.75; enjoyable and quick listen, but I think I was expecting something else. Nonetheless, interesting insight into defining masculinity from someone who has experienced the struggles of the two binary genders. ...

    The hunks of truth, contained within ?Amateur?, weigh in with such power and necessity - delivered with such graceful empathy and self-awareness; its authority is impossible to deny. The world is a better place knowing Thomas Page McBee is in it. Every body should read this. ...

  • Courtney Gillette
    Aug 23, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

  • Punfiend
    Sep 16, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

    I liked a lot of this and found the story fascinating.... but I still don't know why he felt the need to fight. It didn't de-mystify boxing for me. I saw boxing as a band-aid to put on the issue of toxic masculinity, not the cure.... ...

    Superbly well written and insightful, a pleasure to read. Thomas explores the subject of masculinity with great openness and vulnerability. As a woman I found it very interesting to read, and it certainly made me see things more from the male point of view. ...

    ~3.5-3.75; enjoyable and quick listen, but I think I was expecting something else. Nonetheless, interesting insight into defining masculinity from someone who has experienced the struggles of the two binary genders. ...

    The hunks of truth, contained within ?Amateur?, weigh in with such power and necessity - delivered with such graceful empathy and self-awareness; its authority is impossible to deny. The world is a better place knowing Thomas Page McBee is in it. Every body should read this. ...

    It was an excellent read. Insightful and I'm glad to have gained some of Thomas' point of view. ...

  • Adrian Brown
    Oct 06, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

  • Jenni
    Dec 03, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

    I liked a lot of this and found the story fascinating.... but I still don't know why he felt the need to fight. It didn't de-mystify boxing for me. I saw boxing as a band-aid to put on the issue of toxic masculinity, not the cure.... ...

    Superbly well written and insightful, a pleasure to read. Thomas explores the subject of masculinity with great openness and vulnerability. As a woman I found it very interesting to read, and it certainly made me see things more from the male point of view. ...

    ~3.5-3.75; enjoyable and quick listen, but I think I was expecting something else. Nonetheless, interesting insight into defining masculinity from someone who has experienced the struggles of the two binary genders. ...

  • Olivia Barrow
    Oct 29, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

  • Larkin Tackett
    Oct 31, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

  • Marcus Kaye
    Nov 13, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

    I liked a lot of this and found the story fascinating.... but I still don't know why he felt the need to fight. It didn't de-mystify boxing for me. I saw boxing as a band-aid to put on the issue of toxic masculinity, not the cure.... ...

  • Marcus Perry
    Nov 26, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

  • Maggie Dziong
    Sep 10, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...

    Overall this was an easy read, and I appreciate McBee's honesty and his premise -- evaluating masculinity -- made it an easy impulse-buy for me. But I was disappointed in the conclusions -- or lack thereof. McBee used the process of training for a charity boxing match as his resear...

    This is the kind of book I wish I could have written and maybe still will. And when I do write my book about masculinity, I will credit Thomas Page McBee along with bell hooks (and her moving call to action, The Will to Change) for their ability to write about the challenges of creatin...

    Eh. It was particularly interesting to read this immediately following reading Janet Mock?s newest memoir, which I devoured in less than 24 hours. This one I had to take breaks from and come back to because, frankly, I got sick of him. I as a transmasculine person am desperate for st...

    I am not a fan of boxing, but I was intrigued by this book, written by the first transgender man to ever box in Madison Square Garden. McBee writes about his difficult relationship with his stepfather and about his journey toward owning and understanding his own masculinity. I found th...

    In the beginning of Amateur, McBee quotes psychologist Carl Jung's work on evil. "To face and own what most disturbs you about yourself, Jung believed, is among the central tasks of being human." This frames McBee's book about manhood and masculinity, in which he walks through and face...

    This is an important book that will likely not be read widely enough. The writing is great. He's a journalist and that shows in the style, but he's also a natural storyteller and that shows too, especially the in the parts about his mother. My experiences with masculinity differ ...

    Thomas, like me, started transitioning at 30. His first book made me realize I was trans. This book is so important for anyone out there who wants to understand that masculinity is as much a construct as gender, and understand why trans people are continually targeted. It?s the exact...

    What does it mean to "be a man" in our culture? (You can't be anything like a woman. So sad.) The author transitioned from a woman to a man, so he's seen both sides. But after becoming a man and being treated like a man, he noticed some sexist behaviors towards women in himself! I appr...

    I originally picked this up because it was about boxing. I really enjoyed (and still talk about) a boxing class I took a few years ago and have cheerfully taken up kickboxing. Reading about McBee's time in a boxing gym, preparing for a charity boxing match, and considering aggression a...

    I would disagree with the author?s politics. His desire to see much through race, sex, and class. However, the monograph is heartfelt and his focus on sexuality is understandable given his job and his life experiences. The book is an article stretched so it?s granular analysis ...

    As a thumbnail biography, it is fine. I might read McBee?s actual in-depth biography and appreciate it more than this one. As a book about pugilism, violence, masculinity or conflict, it?s a bit lacking. I?d recommend Sheridan?s The Fighter?s Heart/The Fighter?s Mind and Mi...

    I much preferred this book to his first, Man Alive. It tells more of a story - although they are both autobiographical - and it was a really interesting and thought provoking look at masculinity, written by a transgender man. I learnt a lot, as someone who usually reads about femininit...

    This one is going to sit with me for awhile. Ann Friedman?s back of the book review calls it a warm hug, and it is. I loved his writing style, his ability to see everything, to face hard truths and lead with a beginner?s mind. There?s a lot to say about masculinity in America and...

    I liked a lot of this and found the story fascinating.... but I still don't know why he felt the need to fight. It didn't de-mystify boxing for me. I saw boxing as a band-aid to put on the issue of toxic masculinity, not the cure.... ...

    Superbly well written and insightful, a pleasure to read. Thomas explores the subject of masculinity with great openness and vulnerability. As a woman I found it very interesting to read, and it certainly made me see things more from the male point of view. ...

  • Booky Nooky
    Sep 20, 2018

    Thomas Page McBee was the first transgender man to box at Madison Square Garden. In his second memoir, which arose from a Quartz article entitled ?Why Men Fight,? he recounts the training leading up to his charity match and ponders whether aggression is a natural male trait. McBee ...

    I have asked myself questions about what masculinity is countless times; I think Thomas was the first to give me an answer I was satisfied with. As a trans guy interested in better understanding myself, I have read plenty of books that spoke about transitioning and finding one's plac...

    I'm so thankful for the way McBee put into words so much of what I've often felt about masculinity. I don't know if I've ever felt as seen as I did reading this book. This is an important read, not just for other trans men, but for people of all genders who are trying to figure out wha...

    Maggie Nelson said that this book was like "sitting with someone uncurling his hands, than holding them out to you, open, so that you can behold all the hard-won strength, insight, agility and love to be found there" and I think that's true. This is a vital trans narrative about becomi...

    Wow. This might be my new favorite book. What a powerful read. To think about what it's like to be a man when you know first-hand how the world feels for women... incredible. Truly incredible. ...

    What is masculinity? Is it static or is it fluid? Does it have to be violent or can it find strength in being tender? Thomas Page McBee explores masculinity, both its negatives and possible positives, in his book "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" as he prepares for a chari...

    Thomas Page McBee writes beautifully about the struggle of masculinity, having had the unique opportunity to live/see it from both sides. There's a lot about fighting in this book, and while I love to strap on some gloves and punch it out as much as the next girl, I finished the book s...

    A unique and important perspective on gender and the culture of masculinity; truly, this was a fascinating read. The ideas and story are well worth reading. I had some trouble reconciling the content with the way it was presented, though, and maybe that's just a personal thing. Since t...

    This book blew me away. I read pretty much everything I can find on masculinity and this was a one of a kind read. As a trans man McBee navigates a great deal of his external gender socialization with a deep attentiveness, tenderness, and patience. Watching the way he grabs a 'piece' o...

    If I?m honest, I have little interest in boxing (and perhaps less so in masculinity as a concept), but Thomas Page McBee is such a talent, I?d follow him anywhere. This is a generous and tender story, beautifully rendered. I?m grateful this book is in the world. ...

    Thomas Page McBee wrote an earlier book, Man Alive, about his transition; this one, Amateur, is about his attempts to learn to box in order to fight in a charity match at Madison Square Garden. (He did it, becoming the first trans man to box there in the process.) As its subtitle would...

    "Amateur: A True Story About What Makes A Man" is the memoir by Thomas Page McBee in which he explores masculinity through the framework of training for and fighting in a charity boxing match at Madison Square Garden. I commend McBee for taking on the HUGE topic of masculinity (as well...