Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too long?and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all. Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At ho From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold div...

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Title:Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward
Author:Gemma Hartley
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Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward Reviews

  • Ang
    Nov 27, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

  • Kelly
    Dec 27, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

  • Rebekah
    Feb 02, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

  • Kristen
    Jan 12, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

    Yep. It's a good one ...

    3.5 stars. Not a ton of new information here, though, this is an important book anyway. Not to mention that the familiarity and solidarity is incredibly satisfying. Her nods to disabled and trans/non binary women felt quite deficient so there is still a great deal of thinking to be don...

  • Amanda
    Dec 07, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

  • Maggie
    Sep 18, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

  • Cari
    Sep 25, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

    Yep. It's a good one ...

    3.5 stars. Not a ton of new information here, though, this is an important book anyway. Not to mention that the familiarity and solidarity is incredibly satisfying. Her nods to disabled and trans/non binary women felt quite deficient so there is still a great deal of thinking to be don...

    Full disclosure: I quit reading about 65 pages into the book. I have no intention of finishing. I'm a chronic book-finisher, even when it isn't exactly a really good book, so the fact that I quit without caring says a lot. The book seems to be marketed as something thought-provoking...

    Fed UP is the book every woman should definitely be reading come November 13th. Gemma Hartley takes up the stand and makes it known to women that they are not alone in this journey that is emotional labor. Gemma allows us to learn how day through day there exists a growing amount of ...

    Hartley's in-depth analysis of emotional labor and its implications across Western society breaks ground in this discipline. Stemming from a Harper's Bazaar article ? ?Women Aren?t Nags, We?re Just Fed Up? ? the book explores how emotional labor and its distribution affects...

  • Debie
    Jan 19, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

  • Jennifer
    Nov 28, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

  • Emily May
    Dec 26, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

  • Alissa Carey
    Jan 26, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

    Yep. It's a good one ...

    3.5 stars. Not a ton of new information here, though, this is an important book anyway. Not to mention that the familiarity and solidarity is incredibly satisfying. Her nods to disabled and trans/non binary women felt quite deficient so there is still a great deal of thinking to be don...

    Full disclosure: I quit reading about 65 pages into the book. I have no intention of finishing. I'm a chronic book-finisher, even when it isn't exactly a really good book, so the fact that I quit without caring says a lot. The book seems to be marketed as something thought-provoking...

  • Rhiannon Johnson
    Jan 24, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

  • Emmkay
    Jan 29, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

  • Cristine Mermaid
    Oct 24, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

  • Jo-Ann Duff (Duffy The Writer)
    Dec 25, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

  • Amanda Misiti
    Dec 31, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

  • Jessica
    Nov 25, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

  • Jennifer
    Nov 25, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

  • joni edelman
    Sep 11, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

  • Nikki
    Dec 06, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

  • Alyssa's Bookshelves
    Nov 11, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

    Yep. It's a good one ...

    3.5 stars. Not a ton of new information here, though, this is an important book anyway. Not to mention that the familiarity and solidarity is incredibly satisfying. Her nods to disabled and trans/non binary women felt quite deficient so there is still a great deal of thinking to be don...

    Full disclosure: I quit reading about 65 pages into the book. I have no intention of finishing. I'm a chronic book-finisher, even when it isn't exactly a really good book, so the fact that I quit without caring says a lot. The book seems to be marketed as something thought-provoking...

    Fed UP is the book every woman should definitely be reading come November 13th. Gemma Hartley takes up the stand and makes it known to women that they are not alone in this journey that is emotional labor. Gemma allows us to learn how day through day there exists a growing amount of ...

  • Feisty Harriet
    Jan 28, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

  • PipReads
    Jan 16, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...

    Yep. It's a good one ...

  • Elisabeth Britton
    Jan 24, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

  • Morgan Henley
    Dec 19, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

  • Mel
    Feb 04, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...

    This is everything I have ever thought about the upside down world of women and our lives in the home and in the work place. It was so nice to have my thoughts put so eloquently into words and made me feel so good that I am not crazy and many others feel just as I do. Thank you so very...

    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...

    Can't decide if this was more enlightening or enraging (or if that matters). I especially enjoyed how Hartley focused in places on her own relationship and how important it is for both partners to work towards balancing the brunt of emotional labor because even when one might be doing ...

  • Gwendolyn B.
    Dec 10, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

  • Alison Terpstra
    Dec 04, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

  • Caitlin Kunkel
    Dec 27, 2018

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...

    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...

    The ideas and content behind Hartley's largest argument--women do the vast majority of emotional labor for their families--is solid. The research is, perhaps, a little one-sided, although I appreciate that in the last half of the book she talks a little about LGBTQ couples and the enor...

    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...

    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...

    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...

  • Andrew Molitor
    Feb 02, 2019

    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...

    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...

    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...

    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...

    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...

    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...

    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...

    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...

    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...

    Read my full review on my blog here: https://ivoryowlreviews.blogspot.com/... I remember talking to girlfriends when "The Break-Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn came out. We were discussing the scene where Aniston asks her man-child boyfriend Vaughn to help her do the dish...

    Emotional labor! That old chestnut! This is of the genre I call "Do you like to be mad." This is very much a "do you like to be mad" book and yes, I DO like to be mad! There's an extreme occurrence of emotional labor on my personal zeitgeist right now--it's here, it's in half the episo...

    It?s been a long time since I haven?t finished a book. This one was a shame - I was really interested in the topic of women?s emotional labour, but thought the author had real problems expanding an article she wrote for Harper?s Bazaar into a book. There?s some interesting in...

    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...

    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...

    Let me start out by saying that Hartley ain't wrong. Secondly, my credentials. I am a stay at home dad, I do much of the schedules, maintaining shopping lists, remembering to set up the kiddos' doctor's appointments, then setting them up, then taking the kids to them, and so on. I d...