I'm Afraid of Men

I'm Afraid of Men

"Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and challenge you to do better. This challenge is a necessary one?one we must all take up. It is a gift to dive into Vivek's heart and mind." ?Rupi Kaur, bestselling author of The Sun and Her Flowers and Milk and Honey A trans artist explores how masculinity was imposed on "Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and chall...

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Title:I'm Afraid of Men
Author:Vivek Shraya
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:0735235937
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:96 pages pages

I'm Afraid of Men Reviews

  • Liz Laurin
    May 04, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

  • Lisa H
    Sep 06, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

  • Cait
    Sep 11, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

  • Krista
    Sep 04, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

  • Kim Trusty
    Sep 08, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

  • Laura
    Sep 25, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

  • Sarah
    Sep 25, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

  • Jackie
    Jun 30, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

  • Chelsey
    Oct 08, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

  • Prakash
    Sep 01, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

  • Andy Bird
    Aug 28, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

  • Brandon Forsyth
    Sep 23, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

  • Beth
    Aug 29, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

  • Lara
    Jul 23, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

  • Karina
    Jul 11, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

  • Kiirstin
    Sep 27, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

    Essential reading for humans. ...

  • Kiki
    Aug 26, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

  • Elisabeth Manley
    Sep 23, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

  • Sarah
    Oct 12, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

  • Julia Moreira
    Sep 16, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

    Essential reading for humans. ...

    Breathtakingly neurotic, self-absorbed person depicts countless incidents of self-consciousness throughout a life defined entirely by how others perceive her. At the end, one gets absolutely no sense that she's found emancipation or balance from her transition. Depressing and so very s...

    This short book packed so many punches! It was easily readable, but also made me think about a lot of things. It's super relate-able to the current discourse, one of the lines that especially stands out to me is "Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in whic...

    Vivek Shraya says so much I?ve wanted to say, as a woman, and taught me so much about the struggles of being a trans woman. This book could be such an eye-opener for men on the fears that women and gender-nonconforming people face. Shraya highlights men?s ?entitlement to space?...

    ?I have always been disturbed by this transition, by the reality that often the only way to capture someone?s attention and to encourage them to recognize their own internal biases (and to work to alter them) is to confront them with sensational stories of suffering. Why is my huma...

  • Kari
    Oct 03, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

    Essential reading for humans. ...

    Breathtakingly neurotic, self-absorbed person depicts countless incidents of self-consciousness throughout a life defined entirely by how others perceive her. At the end, one gets absolutely no sense that she's found emancipation or balance from her transition. Depressing and so very s...

    This short book packed so many punches! It was easily readable, but also made me think about a lot of things. It's super relate-able to the current discourse, one of the lines that especially stands out to me is "Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in whic...

  • Critterbee❇
    May 01, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

  • Ian Ridewood
    Sep 19, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

  • Rachel Mantas
    Sep 24, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

  • Monika
    Jun 08, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

  • Samantha Mielke
    Sep 23, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

  • Kyla
    Oct 04, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

  • Krystal Hicks
    Jul 06, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

  • Shonah
    Jul 23, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

    Essential reading for humans. ...

    Breathtakingly neurotic, self-absorbed person depicts countless incidents of self-consciousness throughout a life defined entirely by how others perceive her. At the end, one gets absolutely no sense that she's found emancipation or balance from her transition. Depressing and so very s...

    This short book packed so many punches! It was easily readable, but also made me think about a lot of things. It's super relate-able to the current discourse, one of the lines that especially stands out to me is "Why is my humanity only seen or cared about when I share the ways in whic...

    Vivek Shraya says so much I?ve wanted to say, as a woman, and taught me so much about the struggles of being a trans woman. This book could be such an eye-opener for men on the fears that women and gender-nonconforming people face. Shraya highlights men?s ?entitlement to space?...

  • Joan
    Aug 31, 2018

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Required reading. ...

    Clear-eyed and questioning. A concise and emotional. A necessary read. ...

    *e-Arc Netgalley* ...

    This was incredible powerful. Vivek?s honesty was inspiring and also eye opening. Definitely a must read. Thank you to Penguin Randomhouse for the ARC. ...

    As per usual, if it is a book club pick, it is not a book I would normally pick up. I have my own distinct taste for certain books, but I don't always gravitate out of my comfort zone. That's why this book was good for me to read, as normally something under 100 pages seemed insufficie...

    *ARC from Penguin Canada* To echo Tegan & Sara, this book is required reading for all!! "Being a girl has required me to retrain myself to think of depending on others or asking for assistance not as weakness or even as pathetic, but rather as a necessity." "What might de...

    This is really more of an essay than a book, but it is short and eloquent and gets the point across. I love that the author isn?t just ?afraid of men? but also of women who don?t stand up and who go along with misogynistic words and actions. We far too often set the bar so low ...

    I just finished feverishly reading I'm Afraid of Men in one sitting. So few writers can open a book with a Le Guin quote and then build on said quote with such strength and vulnerability. I'm still ruminating on it, and plan to reread it this weekend, after which I may be able to more ...

    This is an incredible book. Her perspective is one that is entirely different from my own, and I learned a lot while reading this. It?s a quick and short read, but her honesty is humbling, and so brave. To show the world who you truly are is an act of courage, and one that Vivek does...

    A powerful, heartbreaking, and essential essay that's probably impossible not to be read in a single sitting. ...

    too short! ...

    Enjoyable and very personal book of essays. I enjoyed the examination of toxic masculinity. ...

    Essential reading for humans. ...

    Breathtakingly neurotic, self-absorbed person depicts countless incidents of self-consciousness throughout a life defined entirely by how others perceive her. At the end, one gets absolutely no sense that she's found emancipation or balance from her transition. Depressing and so very s...