I'm Afraid of Men

I'm Afraid of Men

"Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and challenge you to do better. This challenge is a necessary one?one we must all take up. It is a gift to dive into Vivek's heart and mind." ?Rupi Kaur, bestselling author of The Sun and Her Flowers and Milk and Honey A trans artist explores how masculinity was imposed on "Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and chall...

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Title:I'm Afraid of Men
Author:Vivek Shraya
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:I'm Afraid of Men
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Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:96 pages pages

I'm Afraid of Men Reviews

  • Liz Laurin
    May 04, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

  • Misha
    Dec 31, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    A powerful exploration of masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman. This short read is well worth your time. "If we want masculinity to be different, we must confront and tackle the baseline instead of longing for exceptions. Loving your mother, holding the door open for a ...

  • Jerrie (redwritinghood)
    Oct 21, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

  • Thomas
    Dec 26, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

  • l.
    Oct 19, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

  • Basma
    Oct 22, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

  • Lisa H
    Sep 06, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

  • Leah Horlick
    Dec 26, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

  • Krista
    Sep 04, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

  • Laura Frey (Reading in Bed)
    Nov 08, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

  • Sarah
    Sep 25, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

  • Jackie
    Jun 30, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

  • CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian
    Oct 19, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

  • Chihoe Ho
    Dec 19, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

  • Lola
    Dec 16, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

  • Prakash
    Sep 01, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

  • Andy Bird
    Aug 28, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

  • Brandon Forsyth
    Sep 23, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

  • Beth
    Aug 29, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

  • Jane
    Oct 27, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

  • Alanna Why
    Feb 04, 2019

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    A powerful exploration of masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman. This short read is well worth your time. "If we want masculinity to be different, we must confront and tackle the baseline instead of longing for exceptions. Loving your mother, holding the door open for a ...

    A short essay, highlighting Sharaya's experience of abuse, cruelty of society, misogyny, the hurtful fact that how common these experiences are :( how violence affects the self-esteem, and therefore: happiness! The book started with ?I?m afraid of men because it was men who taught...

    Short, compelling and nuanced meditation on gender. I particularly enjoyed the passage about women and internalized misogyny, because lord knows I've been there. ...

  • Karina
    Jul 11, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

  • chantel nouseforaname
    Oct 23, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

  • Kiki
    Aug 26, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

  • Elisabeth Manley
    Sep 23, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

  • Dylan
    Nov 10, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

  • Monika
    Jun 08, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

  • Emy
    Jan 23, 2019

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...

    Essential reading for anyone new to language about micro-aggressions, and - I think, most importantly, essential reading for folks new to the queer community and not yet disenchanted with the myth of a monolithic queer utopia. When Vivek draws the distinction between queerness and havi...

    I wanted to like this book more than I did. I think as a memoir it succeeds, but it has the flavour of a manifesto, and I guess that's where I stumbled with it. In summary--I don't think women or anyone assigned female at birth (AFAB) would find any of her experiences surprising. Distr...

    Vivek Shraya's writing is undeniably important: direct and powerful, a voice that should be heard more widely. It certainly forced me to examine the ways in which my masculinity has been programmed (why don't I own any dress shirts that aren't black, blue, or white?) and may be threate...

    Visceral, personal, thought-provoking, comforting, truthful, painful, eye-opening, raw, poignant... not any single adjective can properly capture the meaning and emotions of Vivek Shraya's and many other trans experiences but I'm Afraid of Men takes that step to inform, to challenge, a...

    I?ll wait to share my favourite quotes until this comes out but wow do I have a few! I Love Good Essays ...

    A slim, 84 pages, hyper personal essay / memoir of being trans, bi, a person of color & what it would mean to be a "Good man". If you're interested in sexuality or gender I would highly recommend It! ...

    A powerful exploration of masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman. This short read is well worth your time. "If we want masculinity to be different, we must confront and tackle the baseline instead of longing for exceptions. Loving your mother, holding the door open for a ...

    A short essay, highlighting Sharaya's experience of abuse, cruelty of society, misogyny, the hurtful fact that how common these experiences are :( how violence affects the self-esteem, and therefore: happiness! The book started with ?I?m afraid of men because it was men who taught...

  • Catherine
    Jan 23, 2019

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

  • Charlotte (charandbooks)
    Nov 29, 2018

    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...

    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...

    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...

    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...

    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...

    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...

    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...

    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...

    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...

    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...

    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...

    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...

    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...

    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...

    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...

    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...

    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...

    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...

    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...

    this book is incredible but I feel the need to consider my review better as a queer white cis woman. I underlined many passages and felt it very deeply. ...

    This was a conflicting read for me. I felt that the intersectional comments and her experience were so valuable but was thrown off when her arguments fell into the trap of confined socially assigned gender roles (like being afraid of ?too masculine? and ?dominating women at dinne...