Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married

Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married

Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancÚ was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is full of people who aren't what they seem. From Abby Ellin's first date with the Commander, she was caught up in a whirlwind. Within six months he'd proposed, and they'd moved in together. But soon, his exotic stories of international espionage began to unrave Abby Ellin was shocked to learn that her fiancÚ was leading a secret life. But as she soon discovered, the world is f...

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Title:Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married
Author:Abby Ellin
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:B07CWQSKKS
Format Type:Kindle Edition
Number of Pages:238 pages pages

Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married Reviews

  • Kelly
    Feb 06, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

  • Emily
    Feb 12, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...

    Pure garbage. I wanted to finish just be done with it, but had to give up less than half-way through. I don't like to be angry about how badly something is written. If you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. ...

    Don't buy this book I found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book. ...

    An entertaining book and well-written. The author mixes stories of various cons with research material from various sources/ ...

    First part of this book was very interesting when she uncovered someone she was seeing as a liar. Then the book started to drag as far as I was concerned and I lost interest. DNF ...

    Well at least I know why I like to believe all my patients now... great read ...

  • Kelly
    Feb 17, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

  • Steve Silberberg
    Feb 16, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

  • Rhonda Lomazow
    Aug 19, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

  • Robyn Murphy
    Jan 30, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

  • Sharon
    Jan 29, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...

    Pure garbage. I wanted to finish just be done with it, but had to give up less than half-way through. I don't like to be angry about how badly something is written. If you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. ...

    Don't buy this book I found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book. ...

    An entertaining book and well-written. The author mixes stories of various cons with research material from various sources/ ...

    First part of this book was very interesting when she uncovered someone she was seeing as a liar. Then the book started to drag as far as I was concerned and I lost interest. DNF ...

  • Debra
    Oct 28, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

  • Linda Scott
    Feb 15, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...

    Pure garbage. I wanted to finish just be done with it, but had to give up less than half-way through. I don't like to be angry about how badly something is written. If you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. ...

  • Leslie
    Jan 29, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

  • Valerity (Val)
    Nov 01, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

  • Jo-Ann Duff (Duffy The Writer)
    Feb 16, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

  • Jackie
    Sep 06, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

  • Amanda
    Dec 18, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

  • Jenny Martin
    Feb 04, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

  • Jennifer Mcgarey
    Jan 30, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

  • Jennie
    Jan 30, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

  • SundayAtDusk
    Nov 08, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

  • Marianne K
    Oct 31, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

  • Nirmala
    Jan 29, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

  • Jill Blevins
    Feb 16, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

  • The Bookish Hooker
    Sep 23, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

  • Kayo
    Aug 15, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

  • Susan bly
    Jan 20, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...

    Pure garbage. I wanted to finish just be done with it, but had to give up less than half-way through. I don't like to be angry about how badly something is written. If you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. ...

    Don't buy this book I found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book. ...

  • Tracy Caruso
    Feb 11, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

  • Elizabeth
    Feb 10, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

  • MichaelR
    Feb 14, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...

    Pure garbage. I wanted to finish just be done with it, but had to give up less than half-way through. I don't like to be angry about how badly something is written. If you don't have anything to say, don't say anything. ...

    Don't buy this book I found this book to be boring and a complete waste of time. Save your money and attention. Don't buy this book. ...

    An entertaining book and well-written. The author mixes stories of various cons with research material from various sources/ ...

  • Christine
    Feb 02, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

  • Shelly
    Aug 25, 2018

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

  • Kylene
    Feb 15, 2019

    "He who permits himself to tell a lie once, finds it much easier to do it a second time and third time till at length it becomes habitual." - Thomas Jefferson Abby Ellin was duped by a man called "The Commander". He told her that he was a doctor with a secret job, he worked for the ...

    Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she?s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and m...

    I was listening to this as everything about AJ Finn/Dan Mallory came to the surface and couldn't stop thinking "of course." Ellin's story begins with being duped by a man called The Commander. He seemed too good to be true and, ultimately, he was. He played her, as well as numerous...

    Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alon...

    Wow, a book about dupers, and liars, what's not to like!? A very interesting subject that the Liberal author could not resist using to make multiple digs at the current administration in D.C. I was willing to forgive the first time right at the beginning of the book, and then the secon...

    Truly fascinating. While author got duped, she writes about lying and deception and how we all can fall various ways. Excellent read! Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it....

    Abby Ellin explores the reality of the pathological liar in our society in all it's permutations. She was involved in 2010 with the Commander, a man who boasted of CIA links, covert missions, and links to famous people. As a woman who was married to a pathological liar, I could readily...

    3.5 stars. Really interesting look at lying liars who lie. It's crazy to think about the people around us who are living in a puddle of lies. I knew a woman in college who was a compulsive liar, but luckily I wasn't in close enough range to suffer from it. Ellin tells about her ex-fian...

    This isn?t a memoir but rather a study of human nature, and I found it completely engrossing. Ellin, an engaging writer, is able to merge raw reflections and science into something I truly wanted to read. ...

    If you are willing to trust people, enjoy seeing the good in everyone, and have been taken advantage of more than you care to admit, read this book immediately. It will open your eyes and save you a lifetime of harsh, expensive, gut wrenching pain and misery. I promise. The first ch...

    Well written, well researched, compelling, engaging and funny. Duped is about (and written by) a woman who was engaged to a pathological liar who regularly told grandiose but still believable lies, not only as a cover for his indiscretions but also because prevarication defined him and...

    Excellent book. If you?re interested in this subject matter, you?ll love it. You?ll learn some very interesting things. Ex: I didn?t know that gaslighting is illegal in England. I also learned about affinity fraud. This was a fascinating read. Author Abby is the type of person ...

    3.5 Stars I loved the narrator?s voice. Non-fiction - interesting topic. ...

    This book should be required high school reading. Well written - easy to read quickly. Great immersive read. ...

    DNF at 53% ...

    Author Abby Ellin starts off her book by telling the story of how she almost married a con man in the Navy. Apparently all her investigative journalism skills were in hibernation during the time she dated and was engaged to the man; since he told her story after story that made him sou...

    Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I'v...

    Reading the book blurb for Duped took my mind to Ja Rule?s recent tweet that went viral. The comedy, tragedy and sheer astonishment that so many intelligent, rich, A-List celebrities could be drawn into such a global scale scam such as the Fyre Festival is baffling. But, instead of f...

    I could think of no better way to celebrate Valentine?s Day this year than to read a book about lying liars who lie (and cheat, and steal, etc). In all seriousness, though, Duped is a good read. Abby Ellin explores motivations behind lying and why, despite it being widely accepte...

    Abby Ellin a sophisticated New Yorker an author an adult fell in love with a man she met on line .Known as The Commander a Beverly Hills dr who gave up His practice doing covert work for the government yes even medically examined osama Ben Ladin.What a man what a great guy but after th...

    Really enjoyed this book. The most enjoyable parts for me were the author's personal stories/ongoing narrative and the stories of others who got duped or duped people. I was less interested in the scientific information about why people got duped than the motivations of those who did t...

    3.5. I liked this book more than I thought I would. I had been expecting something more along the lines of scams a la Madoff (and he is discussed), but Ellin more details pathological liars, personality traits and explores interesting questions like non-consensual sex as sexual assault...

    This book gave me perspective, I know not everyone is honest with you all the time, even I am not for sure. The author did a good job of narrating each chapter and linking it with her personal life so that we could trust her words. So far, an enjoyable read. ...

    I really like the first part of the book, where she told her story. The rest I wanted to get through so I dedicated an afternoon and made it through with a bath and a power nap. These kinds of stories need to be told and I applaud her for telling hers. ...

    Interesting and engaging, I found myself laughing outloud while being horrified at the acts of deception humans perpetrate against each other. While at times tedious, I thoroughly enjoyed the joyful misandry and fascinating psychology Ellin weaves through her story telling. ...